The Good Grief Trust Poster
A poster for National Grief Awareness Week (credit: The Good Grief Trust)

Key landmarks across the country, including St Paul’s Cathedral, will light up yellow this evening to commemorate the final day of National Grief Awareness Week.

The Central London Cathedral will be emblazoned in yellow following a special service to commemorate all of those who have passed away throughout 2020.

Elsewhere, the Prime Minister Boris Johnson is set to take part in a one-minute silence at 17:00 tonight (Tuesday 8th December) organised by the Charity, The Good Grief Trust.

The organisation, founded by widow Linda Magistris in 2016, has urged people to share and discuss their grief in a year where more families have lost a loved one due to the profound impact that Covid-19 has had with over 60,000 deaths registered within the UK alone from the deadly disease.

As well as providing assistance for those who have recently lost a loved one, the Trust works with smaller organisations across Britain to raise their profile and help reach those in need throughout the community.

One of the charities that the Trust has helped is the Bodie Hodges Foundation, set up by Donna and Nick Hodges in 2012 following the tragic death of their 10-month old baby Bodie.

“When we lost our 10-month old child, we very quickly realised that there was very little support, especially for unexpected deaths,” said Nick Hodges, whose foundation provide therapeutic services and a week-long stay away for bereaved families.

“Everybody goes through a different type of grief. The components of grief are all the same. They come in any order. We don’t talk about it enough. Where it may be a grandparent, it’s sad and upsetting.”

Nick Hodges is the founder of the Bodie Hodges Foundation

“Losing a child goes against the natural order of life. No one expects to bury their own child. The early days are incredibly intense.”

“It can take time, and it takes longer for some more than others. For me, I found the first two years incredibly difficult. You’re facing the first birthday, the first anniversary, the first holiday. But, this is not the same for everybody.”

“Never feel guilty about the way that you feel. If you feel angry, then you feel angry; if you feel sad, then embrace it and hope that the next day you will feel better. Accept the way that you feel. When you feel ready, there is some fantastic support.”

“Talk about the person that has died. People are usually happy to talk about them. They want to be remembered.”

“if you feel angry, then you feel angry; if you feel sad, then embrace it”
nick hodges

It’s hoped that having more discussions about grief will make people more aware of the impact that it has on different individuals and families.

It is estimated that around 10% of those bereaved will experience a mental health condition such as anxiety, post-traumatic stress and prolonged grief disorder.

In March 2020, the Department of Health and Social Care committed £10.1 million to different bereavement charities to support those in desperate need of help.

Charities who can provide assistance to the bereaved: 

THE GOOD GRIEF TRUST

0800 2600 400

NATIONAL BEREAVEMENT PARTNERSHIP

0800 448 0800

CALM

0800 58 58 58