Couple: Jonathan and Harriet

Couples have been describing how the coronavirus lockdown is affecting their relationships.

COVID-19 has forced many couples to make a choice: isolate together or isolate apart. This decision is not as easy as it sounds: family, location and finances all play major roles.

If you are struggling, here are a few tips from those in the know on how to best deal with it.

Student Harriet Bull from Nottingham shared:

Jonathan and Harriet

“My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship. We have been for nearly a year and a half, UK-America. Even though we were already in a long-distance relationship the virus has still affected us.

“He had to fly back to America four days earlier than planned on our last trip and another trip in April has been cancelled. Although this has been hard we are already very used to going long amounts of time without seeing each other.

“Here are some things we do to try to make the distance easier for us:

  • Making sure that we have scheduled FaceTime calls at roughly the same time every day.
  • Making sure that we have the same expectations for how much/when we call.
  • We watch a show together.
  • Check-in with each other lots during the day.
  • Carry on doing mundane things together (like doing our individual work whilst being on FaceTime).
  • Look back at photos from when we were together/talk about fun times we’ve had.
  • Plan lots of fun things for when we can see each other again.
  • Sending each other things/letters in the post.”

Lisa and Jack

Fashion brand owner, Lisa Kharas from Nottingham shared her advice on how planning for the future is helping her relationship, despite being apart. Lisa and her partner live in different cities, so they are used to distance but have never been apart for this length of time.

Lisa talks about how thinking to the future is helping her relationship through lockdown

Meghan and Alfie

Students, Meghan Robb and Alfie Brunt from Warwickshire gave an alternative viewpoint as they are used to a long-distance relationship but are isolating in the same house during the lockdown, giving an insight into how couples that are not used to living together are having to adapt.

“It’s about being able to give each other space and having time for ourselves.”

Megan Robb and Alfie Brunt talk about how they’re adapting to quarantine together

If you want to watch films together, ‘Netflix Party’ enables people to sync up their viewing experience and chat along at the same time. A face-to-face conversation is valued by many in relationships so FaceTime, Zoom or Google Hangouts are all ways to keep this up.

Alternatively, if you want to work on your fitness over this period, video calls can help people exercise together too. A simple HIIT workout may seem boring alone, but together it can be a very motivating experience.

Whatever you decide to do, try to strike the balance with how much time you spend in contact with each other and vary what you do.